Having trouble in parenting your children? Trust me, I have been there. We, as parents, do not understand what to do.
I’m going to talk about some lessons which I learned as a mother of two teenage daughters. Firstly, do not scold children. They should be listened to. If we listen to even the smallest of things, they’ll feel comfortable opening up to us about the bigger matters. Especially in these years, we must be there for them, as their friends. They should know that they can trust us, and should feel comfortable talking to us.
If you shout at your child about everything, then perhaps your child will start thinking that verbal arguments are the only way to handle things. With the changing hormones of our children, one must remain calm while handling them. It’s a delicate stage for them.
If you want the child to respect you and your decisions, then you have to give the child respect. Also, give them a bit of privacy, and stop invading it.
In such a situation, if the child is pressured about studies or some habit, that he dislikes, then it can cause stress to the child. And the child can start getting irritated and annoyed, at even the simplest of matters.
To get stubborn children to study, first of all, it is necessary to make them understand that in the future only education will take them to places. It is important that they realize the significance of education, and let them make their own decisions about what they want to do about it further. Let them hold themselves accountable. Apart from this, create a peaceful environment to study at home and also set aside some time for time-to-time supervision. For example, you can ask the child to reduce their screen time by putting a limit on their app usage. Let the child decides what they think is an ample amount of time. My point is, always explain to them the consequences of their actions.
Some children want to eat junk food every alternate day. Again, we need to explain to them the consequences of what will happen and encourage them to live a healthy lifestyle. However, never force them. It’ll make the bad habits or things more desirable to them.
C’mon parents, you got this. We are all in this together.